Addiction. another small, but serious word.
The Merriam-Websters short definition of this word is as follws:
Addiction: a strong and harmful need to regularly have something (such as a drug) or do something (such as gamble)
: an unusually great interest in something or a need to do or have something.
When going through a breakup or ending of a relationship, more than often we feel sad about it at some point. The end of a relationship, is the end of a part of your identity, an end to parts of your every day routine, end of planning for the future. It is a loss.
Suddenly being cut of from HIM and US initially brought me relief and freedom, but that feeling never fully stayed with me.
I felt lonely,
I felt unsure of myself.
I didn’t know what to do with myself.
I began to crave his attention,
I began to glamorize and romanticize our relationship.
Id experience anxiety not receiving a call or text from him.
But when he’d call Id refrain as best as I could from answering or respond to him.
Id makeup excuses because I know I shouldn’t see him
but yet I craved him and his attention
I wanted HIM to want me,
Again.
But id never make plans to see him. I knew I had to stay away and draw a line, but dancing along the line and tip-toeing was thrilling and closer to satiating my sefish wants more that a complete cut off…
But id try and try and try to cut him off.
But everytime I’d slip into these little ruts I had to remind myself of the hurt he caused me.
How my days, my moods, and confidence were truly better without him.
But the selfish and naiive part of my heart that loved HIM, the HIM from early on in ur relationship would whisper to me, you love HIM, and he is still in the man He has become now.
But my brain would remind me You need to Love yourself before you can love another being.
Here I was being split in so many ways, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. My moods were unstable and volatile.
and then I realized one morning while showering and shivering from stepping onto the cold tile flow.
I am an addict.
I am going through withdrawals
I am cleansing my life and ways
I am letting go of HIM.
Because he had hurt me.
He was not the Guy I had fallen in love with.
He was Toxic and Cunning and Charming.
I needed to be healthy
and rid myself of HIM.
My Addiction.